Dearly cherished, we’re gathered right here today to complete this thing called⦠a season finale! Yes, its correct, the occurrence signifies the conclusion absolutely the blockbuster which was S2 of
Hold Off, Is This A Date?
Also to commemorate that ending, just who safer to come on and talk about the joys and achievements of a long range crush, than star and queer person Elise Bauman? You might identify Elise from Lifetime’s wonderful queer Christmas time rom-com which come down last year,
Beneath The Christmas Time Tree
,
but around these parts, she’s another subject that will be almost as vaunted: Drew’s girlfriend! Yes, you heard that right, this gleaming twosome ended up being birthed through the great queer custom: the long distance crush.
Exactly what would it be regarding the cross country crush that’s very attracting queers around the globe? Could it be the relative scarceness of like-minded queers around you? Perhaps the capacity to flirt long-distance takes many force off? The 3 people get into all of it, AND Drew and Elise show some potentially also sexy facts about their own commitment!
And of course there can be a casino game! This week, I make Drew have fun with the online game that simply got over Twitter and Tiktok for a few momentary months: « they are a 10 but⦠» its a good time, all over!
PROGRAM RECORDS
+ Follow Elise on
Twitter
and
IG
!
+
Browse Drew’s interview with Jinx Monsoon
!
+ View
Bend it Like Beckham
,
it however rocks!
+ Johnny Sibilly’s upper thighs tend to be⦠without a doubt quite powerful!
+ Will Shortz is actually the name in the NYT Crossword Editor!
*the more you know*
EPISODE
Elise
: following we got off of the phone, following the two of us hopped regarding telephone two seconds later on we’re like, « Therefore, the edge is actually shut, the audience is lawfully banned to truly get throughout the edge. »
Christina
: What i’m saying is, top among certainly the best voice memos as well as texts I managed to get from Drew, i can not bear in mind which kind it came in, it had been want, « I made this course of action and from now on the borders are shut. » Yeah.
Elise
: Yeah, it had been an actual time.
[theme track plays]
Drew
: Hi, I’m Drew.
Christina
: And I’m Christina.
Drew
: And welcome to
Hold Off, So Is This A Date?
Christina
:
Hold Off, Is It A Date?
is an Autostraddle podcast delivered by me personally obtaining giggles, and question this is certainly on everyone’s mouth, hold off, was this a date?
Drew
: We’re at the conclusion of all of our 2nd season, and I also believe we resolved it, In my opinion.
Christina
: Yeah, i believe i am only delivering huge finale electricity, like when comedies was once in front of a studio audience, and every person would walk in and there had been an hour of applause because it was actually like, this is the final, that’s how I’m feeling. Though to be obvious, no body has actually applauded me however, hateful. Thank you so much, thank you. Today I feel liked and held. Drew, who happen to be you?
Drew
: Oh wow, forgot about this part.
Christina
: Yeah, proper?
Drew:
Maybe period three I’ll have the intros. I’m called Drew Gregory, i’m a writer for Autostraddle, a filmmaker, a queer trans girl. Do you know what, i do believe if we do another period I would like to have a great one I throw in at the conclusion.
Christina
: Ooh, one thing spicy, you should jazz it up?
Drew
: Yeah, I don’t have anything today however.
Christina
: Okay, leave them desiring more, In my opinion that is great.
Drew
: Yeah, yeah, yeah.
Christina
: i will be Christina Tucker, I am in addition an author at Autostraddle, and internet as a whole. A podcaster, a gay Black lady, and a person that’s sensation fairly flashy right here on this afternoon.
Drew
: Great, I’m really grateful that you are flashy and that I’m spicy, or perhaps i am planning for the possibility that someday I’ll be spicy.
Christina
: Yes you’re like, I don’t know, 1st 1 / 2 of the movie Dune, the spruce may come. Cool research, girls, she’s solitary. In any event, i really do have a game title for people to experience on this hollowed day’s our finale.
Drew
: Incredible.
Christina
: This Is Actually The traditional, and also by classic I mean a game that overran the net and TikTok for two to three weeks, « They May Be a 10, but⦠»
Drew
: Ah, fantastic.
Christina
: Now Drew, i’ll establish some floor guidelines for you, because i understand you adore a follow up concern.
Drew
: Great.
Christina
: whenever I say they’re a 10, they truly are a 10 to you personally at all that matters for your requirements, that could be literally, which can be psychologically, this is simply people you really feel is actually a 10, okay?
Drew
: Okay, okay, thank you so much.
Christina
: I do not have any scenarios for just what more you within individual are carrying out in your internet dating existence, you’re only browsing have to go along with your gut and decide.
Drew
: Cool.
Christina
: fine?
Drew
: Yes.
Christina
: We’re going to place in which make that clear, right here we go. They may be a 10, nevertheless they clap whenever plane lands.
Drew
: i usually felt like individuals were too dramatic using this, where it is like they may be a 10 which thing means they are visit a two, seriously.
Christina
: Yes.
Drew
: So I’m browsing still offer a fairly substantial eight.
Christina
: Yeah, i believe that is fair. I believe eight could be the proper number of cringe removing for the small activity. All right, this is certainly a great start. Okay, they’re a nine even so they never text you initially.
Drew
: and I also can not ask follow up concerns?
Christina
: No, no, no.
Drew
: So I cannot ask, really do they text myself back when I text? I might say a five.
Christina
: Yeah, not texting basic actually, which is crude.
Drew
: Actually ever is weird.
Christina
: That’s harsh things. Okay, these include a five but they drive one every errand that you have ever endured to run.
Drew
: That’s great, but i possibly could constantly⦠If there had been five, we’ll give him a six.
Christina
: Sure, sure. But I know you love an unicamente jaunt anyhow, you like an errand run.
Drew
:I mean nowadays my girl Elise performed drive me to an errand, and that I was really grateful, but if which was the only thing she performed we’dn’t be in an union, that has been merely an additional little wonderful added bonus.
Christina
: I think which is fair.
Drew
: Yeah.
Christina
: All right, these are generally a seven however they only pretend to learn your projects.
Drew
: look at element of that that bothers myself is the pretend.
Christina
: Pretending, we realized it might be.
Drew
: it isn’t the not reading it. If they did not study my work it is like, I am not that, I would end up being a tiny bit, its like never ever? But it’s fine, I could get over it. Nevertheless they sit in my opinion about this is what’s unusual if you ask me, to make sure thatshould go lower to a three.
Christina
: Yeah, correct, proper. These include a three nonetheless they get access to the criterion closet.
Drew
: And perform I have one to go?
Christina
: and also you get accessibility, you benefit from that access, yes.
Drew
: i possibly could have a great affair with that six.
Christina
: i believe you might. It actually was a three, but yeah, you are slamming it up to a six.
Drew
: No, no, no, that is what I’m claiming, I’m knocking it up to a six.
Christina
: Gotcha, gotcha. Everyone loves that. They are an eight but all of their friends tend to be right.
Drew
: Okay, there was clearly some discourse concerning this, because I think there seemed to be a needed help. In my opinion We maybe ended up being on opposing area of many in the Autostraddle staff who mentioned that it’s fine to simply have direct buddies. I wish to point out that truly good, it is simply maybe not the life span I lead. All right pals, that is going to check-out a-two.
Christina
: Yeah, i will need certainly to go along with you thereon one, i’d merely believe it is slightly troubling, confusing.
Drew
: All right friends?
Christina
: Yeah.
Drew
: if they are a new comer to queerness and they are willing to meet a lot more queer folks, which is diverse from if they are a well established season queer who is want, do you know what? I really like getting usually the one lesbian within my pal group of direct men and women.
Christina
: Yeah, I would personally feel the same way in the event it was a dark person who ended up being like, « I don’t have any dark friends, » i might resemble, « what’s happening there? » Internally.
Drew
: we aren’t in a network sitcom, we cannot have a token individual.
Christina
: you should not end up being the token, you should not do this to yourself. Fine, we’ve three a lot more. These are generally a seven however they spend-all their own sparetime in the gym, consistently strength training down and up. I’m not sure what folks do at the gym.
Drew
: All of their leisure time. I guess it all depends on which counts as free time. I’ll say a five.
Christina
: Yeah.
Drew
: I’ll bump them down two.
Christina
: Bump all of them down.
Drew
: but that is great. I guess it depends largely for me, that I’m perhaps not asking a follow concern, I’m keeping five, nevertheless is dependent to me what counts as spare time.
Christina
: Sure.
Drew
: are we able to see motion pictures collectively, or go out to eat, is that time? Isn’t work time spare time, or perhaps is it just like once we do not have other activities?
Christina
: we listen to you, we notice you.
Drew
: But we’ll stick to five.
Christina
: fine. They can be six, however their mommy is actually hotter than they’ve been.
Drew
: Oh, I’m not sure to move up or down.
Christina
: I know, correct?
Drew
: I really don’t consider I could ever before date some one for their⦠its like if I’m maybe not drawn to someone to begin with, I’m perhaps not likely to be internet dating them.
Christina
: Appropriate.
Drew
: I’m not gonna be love, well, they are able to develop into their particular hot mommy. In my opinion I would claim that they’re nonetheless a six, i am simply likely to maybe not call them and that I’m going to contact their particular mom.
Christina
: Yeah, personally i think want it’s like you stay similar, but possibly I hang out with you a tiny bit longer than i might in order-
Drew
: That’s a beneficial point.
Christina
: receive some mother time. I really don’t imagine you transform.
Drew
: used to do some thing truly bad that we however feel severely in regards to, which can be that somebody asked me personally out, and also this was once I was a student in university, and I wasn’t curious, I really ended up being clear about this, I found myself obvious I happened to ben’t interested. But then she desired to be pals, and I could inform that she stated she wished to be friends but it ended up being from location-
Christina
: She ended up being wishing.
Drew
: Yeah. Although thing is that each of her pals had been actually hot and cool, I really did stayed her pal to go out together buddies. I did not lay about my personal objectives generally speaking, nevertheless nevertheless wasn’t the best thing Used to do as a 20 year-old.
Christina
: i am talking about unfortuitously it reminds me personally of these episode of
Intercourse and also the City
in which Carrie’s matchmaking, in my opinion it is Justin Theroux, and then he sucks, but their family members rocks, and she’s like, I’m able to do that for some. I’m like, yeah, definitely, exactly who could not.
Drew
: Carrie was not attempting to get together together with his household, the huge difference, but you know what? It’s good, all of us are good.
Christina
: A hookup can look like something, I’m always proclaiming that.
Drew
: That’s a very fantastic point.
Christina
: your own last any, is actually a three but has a beach household.
Drew
: I’m going to say an annoying sentence, but we decided to go to NYU.
Christina
: awful to express.
Drew
: something sucks about myself, which this is certainly planning to appear to be a very humble boast, because it’s really probably good figure attribute, nevertheless sucks as one checking out the globe. I visited a school that is filled up with wealthy those that have all sorts of amazing beach homes, and all these other items, and that I just became pals with folks who were indeed there on scholarships. Not just, but mostly, I surely, I didn’t it’s the perfect time with people who had coastline residences.
Christina
: You Probably Didn’t make use of.
Drew
: Yeah, and so I believe if they are a three however they have actually a beach household, they are most likely a-two. The simple fact⦠I’m not sure.
Christina
: Yeah, you merely can not create that leap to use the sick beach residence minute.
Drew
: No, it sucks. Exactly what i am really wanting is that my friends that are relatively down-to-earth, great individuals, many ones are simply just attending consistently have that new cash and get coastline houses, and then i’m going to be in a position to hang out with my great friends and be at a beach residence. That is the dream in which i really could have the coastline household.
Christina
: this is the fantasy at the conclusion of a single day, it really is brand new cash and a beach home, that’s all we are trying to find. You heard it right here 1st folks.
Drew
: Everyone loves new money.
Christina
: Love new money.
Drew
: Love new cash. Yeah, that has been a delight. I’d actually, I would truly already been planning to perform that game because it was actually anything on TikTok, so many thanks for making my desires be realized.
Christina
: I imagined it might be a great anyone to carry out, therefore was actually really fun to create them.
Drew
: Well, should we proceed to the primary segment of the week, basically falling for those who live-in additional metropolises. That will be different than cross country connections, because cross country relationships will start well into a relationship, they may be able carry on into an union, this is the desire that queer individuals have to consider their unique spot which they stay and get, no, I’m not gonna flirt using these folks, i’ll carry on instagram.com and locate a person who resides extremely faraway. So we have actually a, I know we always state a rather special guest, but also for me this can be a tremendously special guest. Want to introduce your self?
Elise
: I would like to introduce me. Have always been we the unique guest?
Drew
: You are, yes.
Christina
: Baby, however.
Elise
: Great, wow, remarkable. I’m called Elise Bauman, I’m an actor, i am a queer person, and I’m here now because i am resting with one of several hosts.
Christina
: Guess what type?
Elise
: Yeah, other podcast is simply the market trying decipher which number i am sleeping with. I prefer that, it really is like a murder puzzle but-
Christina
: there isn’t any method to understand.
Elise
: there is no strategy to know. Yeah, does this make me a nepotism baby? Is that how sector really works.
Christina
: Yes, which is how the business really works, hottie.
Elise
: amazing, great.
Christina
: this is certainly it.
Elise
: Wow, maybe i really could get a profession from this.
Christina
: fingertips entered individually.
Elise
: Nepo baby to career, wow, fantastic. I have constantly planned to end up being a nepo infant.
Christina
: I’m thus pleased.
Drew
: Yeah, I became simply likely to claim that for those who do not know, really now I’m damaging the murder mystery of it all, but Elise and I have been in a relationship, and did start relationship while in the pandemic, and Elise lives in Toronto, and I also live-in la, which have been in reality different places, consequently they are in reality in different countries.
Elise
: they might be without a doubt, these are typically indeed.
Christina
: And Drew, not to imply that you moved against your own personal gut, but i really do feel like you will be typically a person who states, precisely why make use of a long range minute? Discover men and women listed here I can date, exactly why do this to your self? You are sure that it will likely be difficult, you realize it will likely be difficult, why do this? Yet right here you are.
Drew
: See, that is fascinating, because I feel like I always appreciated having a small amount of both, I just believe i did not make the long-distance types perhaps since really.
Christina
: Maybe that’s it, yeah.
Drew
: But i enjoyed an extended distance flirt.
Christina
: Correct.
Drew
: therefore i believe this only stored going. When we began-
Elise
: Therefore, the response, Drew, was not that I found myself just attractive also it ended up being private in my opinion, and this ended up being really particular to me that I found myself simply incredibly attractive so you merely smashed your entire policies and you also mentioned, « i must have this one. »
Drew
: I mean its type of the answer in an extended feeling. In the same manner that it simply kept taking place. And the close friends regarding the pod, Mal Blum and Gab Dunn, which I regularly accept, as some of you may already know, I would continually be like, I’d be attempting to date folks throughout pandemic in Los Angeles and also the surrounding regions of Los Angeles. Right after which they’d create fun of me because I would sometimes just be want, « I mean, i possibly could merely attempt to date Elise Bauman. » I became constantly, « I mean, {this person|this i